These over-scheduled kids (of any age) generally fall into one of two categories:
- Those who want to find the time to practice, and
- Those who couldn't care less about practicing.
I have had a lot of students spend years with me, only practicing in their lessons, and making minimal progress. And yet, on more than one occasion, I have had a student who, through consistent nudging, week after week, has eventually begun taking a little more initiative at home, and ended up creating a really valuable musical experience for themselves. But no matter the outcome, I have never regretted the time spent with any of these wonderful kids, who all looked to me as a friend (even the teenage boys, who would never admit it). Don't give up on these students!
Of course, the first category of students, those who really want to practice but just can't find the time, can be just as frustrating, though in a different way. The most important thing to remember here is that consistency makes all the difference. If this is a student who has always been a pretty good practicer, but is suddenly finding himself way too busy to fit it in, you can fall back on that good foundation and help him maintain good habits. Even if all they can manage is 10 minutes a day (my high school piano teacher called this "survival practicing"), they can make some progress in that time. Perhaps they can find one or two days a week where they can still put in a good hour, and they can use the 10-minute days for learning one section, drilling one trouble spot, or memorizing one line of music. If they can stay in the habit of playing the piano every day, even for a very short period of time, they will continue to make music a part of their lives during this busy period and beyond.
And, on that occasional week when the musical is running, or the basketball team is in the state playoffs, and the piano doesn't get touched at all, it's okay! If they have managed to stay consistent on other weeks, one week isn't going to hurt them. I have had many students perform quite well in recitals after a week of no practicing, because their preparation was consistent in the weeks beforehand.
Obviously, I am sort of describing the best-case scenario here. Most students will not be so perfect about maintaining good habits when they find themselves over-scheduled. But even here, consistency on the part of the teacher (and the parents, if you can get them involved) will make the biggest difference. Keep practicing with them, keep teaching them how to practice effectively, keep motivating them to fit the practicing in. Keep talking to them about their schedules, stay interested in their other activities, let them know you care about them as a person. Make it about what they did do each week, not what they didn't. And most of all, have fun with them and with the music!

Bonnie, thank you for another wonderful post! I love that you emphasize what the student DID do during the week, not what they didn't.
ReplyDeleteGreat post, Bonnie! I myself was a busy high school student and somehow survived. I had a wonderful teacher who was quite strict, but still understood my dreams and desires. I began taking lessons from her at the beginning of high school and when she told me she generally only teaches students who will go on to major in piano I scoffed and thought YA RIGHT! Well, I did make progress despite a crazy schedule and DID end up majoring in piano. Just like you, she was interested in other aspects of my life and tried to emphasize was I was doing and not focusing on what I wasn't doing (which was tons of practicing!). Music is wonderful, but it's definitely not everything and as a teacher I definitely want a well-rounded student!
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